Everybody Fights: So Why Not Get Better at It?

Short Version: This book is amazing! I highly recommend it for anyone who has any type of relationship with another person, which is everyone. Long Version: I loved the writing style where each topic had a her side/his side to set up the background of the fight or argument. This added the benefit of seeing how an argument can be viewed completely different by each person. It also helped to show how the tools they share get you on the same page so you’re both working on the same problem. There are gray blocks that highlight the skill to be learned from each fight. This will be super helpful when looking back to reference as it is easy to find. While their marriage counselor is also the pastor of their church this book does not contain a religious perspective and can be enjoyed and utilized by people of all religions/secular beliefs. The skills are simple, yet so impactful. I went into this book looking for ways to make my marriage better but feel I learned tools for multiple types of relationships in my life (children, parents, siblings, friends). I have followed Kim & Penn for years and it was very intriguing to get a behind the scenes look into some of the bigger events/fights they’ve had that have been referenced in their videos, blog, or podcast. I appreciate the vulnerability they show by being open in discussing financial and intimate (physical and emotional) centered fights as well. I related to a lot of the book (for better or worse) and am looking forward to re-reading with my spouse to help us both fight better and have it be beneficial to our relationship. And those magic words…..they really are magic. Everybody Fights is incredible and I didn’t think it could get any better…..until I listened to the audio book! Oh my goodness, Kim & Penn reading their book and adding even more gems is simply amazing! You need to own both a hardcopy to reference the tips and skills and the audiobook to hear the extra goodness.

When goofy, yet hilarious people write a book you have to know your in for an exhilarating ride. Kim and Penn Hold nothing back, bearing it all for us to read in black and white. The courage to air your dirty laundry so to say, is truly humbling. Every chapter divulging us with real arguments they had to and did work through. I have to admit I was called out on several occasions...Thankfully It didn't sting so bad because the humor Kim and Penn add to the book makes it feel like you're not alone and there are steps you can take to work through those problems. They even take it a step further by giving clear detailed steps and worksheets you can use to make working through your troubles easier. Marriage is hard but this book has the potential to make it just a little easier.