Improve your personal relationships Most people's lives are complicated by family relationships. Birth order, our parents' relationship, and the "rules" we were brought up with can affect our self-esteem and relationships with spouses, children, and other family members. Family of Origin therapy and techniques can help you create better relationships. This easy-to-read, practical book explains how families function and what you can do to change the way you act in your family and with other people. Exercises show how to apply the principles to your own situation and develop a more positive approach to all aspects of your life. Topics covered include: * What makes it so difficult to be myself with my family? * How is my relationship with my spouse affected by how my family acted when I was a child? * Will my parents still love me if I let them know my real feelings? * How has my birth order and my gender affected my personality? * What birth order in a spouse is the best match for me? * Why do I always feel rejected when my spouse disagrees with me? * How can I change the way I react? * What role does my family history play in my life? * How can I improve my communication skills? Step-by-step exercises show how to make contact with "lost" family members, how to interview relatives to develop a clearer picture of how each member fits into the family tree, and how to find different and better ways of dealing with family relationships. Professionals will also find this book a useful companion to their therapy sessions with clients.
Very insightful book on family of origin, formation on one's personality, and finding ways to heal from your past...
A great way to get started on understanding family
Published by Thriftbooks.com User , 22 years ago
I have been recommending this book to friends and colleagues who are struggling with family issues. It is easy to read, and yet raises very relevant and practical questions. This is the perfect bridge between the most powerful academic ideas, and practical steps for anyone to take to understand themselves, and create better relationships with their family.There are many cases presented in the book that can help you see that what you're experiencing is common, and can be worked through. The underlying structure of the book is very solid--based on Friedman's emotional systems stuff. There is a part at the end on how to research and learn from your family history, going back several generations.Finally, there is a fun chapter on family position. I think it is meant to be general, and taken with a grain of salt. Having said that, I've found the research on the link between family position and couple compatibility to be very interesting.If you like this book and want more depth, read "Generation to Generation" by Edwin Friedman.
Differentiation - a key to being and giving
Published by Thriftbooks.com User , 23 years ago
I read this book on the advice of a wonderful counselor. What I found most remarkable was that the Family Systems approach confirms the crucial importance of fathers in our lives, both as men and women. It seems that in our desire to correct the injustices commited against women by selfish and angry men, we have gone too far and ignored the fact that a father's love is vitally important for both men and women to find wholeness. This book doesn't give all the answers, but it is a step towards finding healing for our brokenness and the freedom to freely give of ourselves to loved ones, friends, and all those in need around us. A good follow up read to this book is Leanne Payne's "Crisis in Masculinity".
Good birth order book
Published by Thriftbooks.com User , 24 years ago
Richardson's early book is one of the most reasonable and non-sensational treatments on birth order and family dynamics. Goes beyond focusing on individual traits or characteristics, he takes seriously the overarching family systems theory that should inform any treatment on birth order.
This book provides an excellent basis for family of origin.
Published by Thriftbooks.com User , 25 years ago
This book provided valuable insight and information surrounding family of origin and birth order. It helped in understanding how and why we interact the way we do in our families. A very good basic and easy-to-read book. Excellent as a referral for clients.
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