Someone pushes your buttons. You feel rage, fear, sweaty palms, unbidden tears--you feel like a kid. We've all experienced moments when we lose control of a situation and ourselves. Now, in Growing Yourself Back Up , the first book to explain the idea of emotional regression to the general reader, bestselling author John Lee identifies the circumstances that cause these seemingly uncontrollable feelings and shows how they are directly tied to our experience as children. No adult, explains Lee, need ever experience the helpless feelings of childhood again. Here are his proven methods and visualization exercises, developed in his popular workshops, for recognizing, preventing, and diffusing regression in ourselves and others. He teaches, for example, that adults cannot be abandoned, they can only be left; if we're feeling abandoned we're regressing. He also reminds us that no matter how overwhelmed we are, adults always have options; if we believe we don't, we're in a regression. Growing Yourself Back Up will show you how to: * develop strong emotional boundaries and convey them to others * learn the Detour Method that reverses regression * confront without regressing * communicate with the authority figures who push your buttons * minimize regression at family functions Lee offers hope--as well as practical strategies that work--for conquering those childlike feelings of powerlessness that are almost always rooted in regression.
Never in my many years of therapy nor reading various self-help books have I ever ran across the likes that this gem of a book offers. The insight is truly amazing and is spoken from a perspective of one whom has - through the arduous process of elimination - able to discern the REAL heart of the matter that so many of us deal with - primarily on an unconscious level and convey the lessons in a friendly and easy to read format. I am already "catching myself" in the throes of regression as it is happening and it is making all the difference in the world to me.....(and that's only based on the Intro and Chapter 1.) My only regret is that I wasn't aware of this book many years ago!!! A MUST READ for anyone serious about changing the same ole, same ole dynamics in their life!!!
This little book will change your life in big ways!
Published by Thriftbooks.com User , 18 years ago
This book applies to everyone! I was at lunch with a few people at a workshop this weekend and the topic of this book came up and we all spontaneously gave testimonials on how "Growing Yourself Back Up" has changed our lives. That is almost always the response I hear from people who read this book, that it changed their lives. I have shared this book with the people I love and I have deeper relationships with all those who embraced this work. John Lee writes from the heart about things that matter so much, yet we never talk about. It is clear in his style that his knowing comes from his own journey of self-discovery. The truth in it touches deep places in the reader.
What an eye-opener!
Published by Thriftbooks.com User , 18 years ago
I could not put this book down it was so good. The idea that adults could, unkowingly, revert back to their childhood during stressfull situations was an eye-opener to me. I saw myself being described in the pages, as I read. I have personally come through a very challenging time in my work as a teacher. I was crying a lot in school due to the behaviour of other adults there. 'Growing yourself back up' helped me to identify the reasons behind my regression and also gave me strategies to help me to break free. John Lee writes in an 'easy to understand' way and he does give the reader hope. I highly recommend this book. If you feel like you have no control over situations in your life, read this book, it could help you to escape from those invisible emotional ties left over from your childhood days.
Best kept secret and most useful recovery book on the market
Published by Thriftbooks.com User , 20 years ago
After many years of study on conflict and peace-making , I was amazed by the usefulness and wonderful information packed into this small book in a readable, easy-to-understand style. This book has lead to more positive life changes than any other book I have encountered. Both my husband and I read it in one afternoon and have used what we learned everyday since and have shared it with many others. A must-read for any person who would like more understanding of interactions with other people and better relationships in all areas of life.
Never too old
Published by Thriftbooks.com User , 23 years ago
Having been trained in psychology, I am familiar with theories of regression. John Lee brings this concept down to such a practical and real level that I found myself changing without even trying. If you are stuck in patterns of behavior that you know aren't helping, this should provide some real understanding of how to get unstuck. Even my wife of 32 years has commented on the changes in me. I am buying 2 more copies, to give to my adult children. I hope they don't have to be stuck as long as I was.
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