"Emotionally abusive parents are indeed toxic parents, and they cause significant damage to their children's self-esteem, self-image, and body image. In this remarkable book, Beverly Engel shares her powerful Mirror Therapy program for helping adult survivors to overcome their shame and self-criticism, become more compassionate and accepting of themselves, and create a more posititve self-image. I strongly recommend it for anyone who was abused or neglected as a child." --Susan Forward, Ph.D., author of Toxic Parents
"In this book, Beverly Engel documents the wide range of psychological abuses that so many children experience in growing up. Her case examples and personal accounts are poignant and powerful reminders that as adults, many of us are still limited by the defenses we formed when trying to protect ourselves in the face of the painful circumstances we found ourselves in as children. Engle's insightful questionnaires and exercises provide concrete help in the healing process, and her writing style is lively and engaging. This book is destined to positively affect many lives." --Joyce Catlett, M.A., coauthor of Fear of Intimacy
The Emotionally Abusive Relationship
"Beverly Engel clearly and with caring offers step-by-step strategies to stop emotional abuse . . . helping both victims and abusers to identify the patterns of this painful and traumatic type of abuse." --Marti Tamm Loring, Ph.D., author of Emotional Abuse
Loving Him without Losing You
"A powerful and practical guide to relationships that every woman should read." --Barbara De Angelis, Ph.D., author of Are You the One for Me?
Great book for healing and Changing the way you parent so you can save your kids from living the same horrific childhood you lived.
After 20+ years of counseling...
Published by Thriftbooks.com User , 15 years ago
...this is the most help I have received so far. I find Ms. Engel's books to be very helpful and practical. No kidding, I have had over 20 years of counseling and going to support groups. I wish someone could have told me what she is saying in this book. I'll be 50 years old August 2009 and I feel sad that I have lived my life with low self-esteem. I have read elsewhere that this is her best book so far (well next to the Nice Girl Syndrome). I am in the process of studying her book. She offers very helpful techniques.
One of the few truly useful self-help books
Published by Thriftbooks.com User , 16 years ago
I've bought and read a lot of self-help books over the years. Most of them aren't worth the money or time. I found this book, though painful at times, extremely valuable for enabling personal growth and recovery.
WOW
Published by Thriftbooks.com User , 16 years ago
A simply amazing book. I have learned so much about myself and I am only half way thorugh. The book has already helped me to pinpoint the negative images I have and where they came from. This is my second Beverly Engel book and this one hit the nail on the head for me, whereas the other book was good, but not as appropriate for my needs. I am not only learning to heal myself, but learning how to interact positively with my own children so they will not have the same problems I have. This book definately helps break the cycle. I read the reviews before I purchased and they helped.
excellent book to help you heal
Published by Thriftbooks.com User , 17 years ago
Beverly Engel is quickly becoming one of my favorite self-help book writers. This is her newest book, and a must read for anyone who was abused or who had a difficult childhood. Beverly Engel describes the various negative parental mirrors and how they effect children, and how these negative thoughts and beliefs about the self are carried into adulthood. She also provides are powerful step by step program (including journal writing) to help you move through your feelings, coming out the other side with a renewed sense of hope and with new tools to use for the furture. This may also be good for anyone who is harsh and critical of his/herself and would like some tools to be kinder to him/herself. Very validating and empowering book.
A must read for all women
Published by Thriftbooks.com User , 17 years ago
This is geared toward abuse survivors of varying kinds. But I think it is a must read for all women...for women who have lost themselves in motherhood, in their job, in their spouses. Her writing style is easy to follow and not condescending. The exercises in the book are thought -provoking and insightful.
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