One in four people have heard it or have said it. . . . Now discover what it really means. If the relationship you have with your significant other is defined more by companionship than passion . . . if you love each other deeply but are not deeply in love . . . if you feel that something's missing or is no longer there . . . then you could be experiencing ILYB (I Love You, But . . .). In I Love You, but I'm Not in Love with You --a real-life relationship guide from couples' counselor Andrew G. Marshall--partners and individuals who have "fallen out of love" or want to rekindle the love that once was will learn how to use Marshall 's program with impressive results. This is a much-needed book to help men and women of all ages in any type of committed romantic relationship to truly understand love and to point out the everyday habits that undermine growing together. Marshall's research is one of the few that delves into what causes relationships to "cool" or for emotions to be "dulled." So much more than a quick-fix guide, I Love You, but I'm Not In Love with You empowers couples to emerge with a better understanding of themselves and each other, and ultimately build a stronger, more passionate bond. Learn how to: - Argue productively and address the core of the issue - Employ the trigger words for more effective communication - Find a balance between being fulfilled as an individual and being one half of a couple - Discover if the ILYB is simply a symptom of a workable problem - Take your sex life to a deeper level of intimacy - Create new bonds instead of searching for the old ones
This is a hard book to read. My wife left, and, just as is very clearly explained in the book, me, the man, didn't have a clue. I found this book because the title is the exact phrase that she used as she walked out. Now, my life is dedicated to being a person that can she can be in love with again. But, the book is hard. I am in there. I can't say how many times I was reading and simply had to put the book down until the tears stopped. It was me I was reading about, and I simply never knew what I had been doing, and even more, not doing. I hope I haven't learned too late.
good mix of data and prescriptive exercises
Published by Thriftbooks.com User , 17 years ago
It is fairly short. I read it in a couple hours. However, we'll definitely be going back through the book to do some of the exercises. I found the research useful and well presented. (Thanks for including many types of couples, non-cliche couples will not feel left out.) I hope the exercises prove to be as useful. I found the title off-putting, and it created a short-lived crisis in our house. But I think the book will work as "marriage enrichment" which is why I bought it (Not to announce that we were through, which is what the title implies.) So, prep your spouse that the book will be useful for helping you STAY together, and make the relationship better, then buy it and use it.
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