Love at Second Sight: Playing the Midlife Dating Game

The movie "What Women Want" was funny and entertaining but did not address the realities of relationships. This book, provides a synopsis of the different issues, from hundreds of interviews that guys simply do not know about ladies and vice versa. Further, it gave me the knowledge (courage) to make that first move for the many reasons outlined in the book. Prior to reading "Love at Second Sight", I would be very passive in pursuing someone I thought interesting. Now, I have the knowledge of what may be happening in her head when I first meet her. Nice book, very nice!

For the first time, after reading so many books on dating, Nancy Collins and Mason Grigsby finally helped me understand how I was getting in my own way, what I was doing that was turning men off, and, best of all, how I could still be me and find a person who loves who I am. If that wasn't enough, they also told me what I needed to do to really get into the game of dating in midlife after 26 years of lamenting over losing my soulmate. Plainly, I stayed stuck and measured everyone against the feelings I had for him. The book taught me that I could find lasting, wonderful love without having to duplicate the soulmate relationship connection of long ago. I found the book so freeing for me. That it was okay to have what some would call old-fashioned attitudes about sex. That I could be open without being so afraid of rejection. That it takes persistence like the searcher who went on 77 blind dates before he found the right one for him. Best of all, the book confirmed my conviction that there is someone for everyone. The trick to finding someone is to actively look. And that was something I was not doing with my whole heart, soul and spirit. I will speak to people who attract me. I will avoid feeling stupid if I find they are already taken. Instead, I will feel wonderfully happy for the lady in their life they mentioned so quickly. I hope one day to be that lady to a wonderful man. If you are a single who wants to be a couple, you can discover much to help you in Collins and Grigsby book.

The death of my husband of 40 years placed me in a situation in which I knew nothing about the singles world. This book is an inspiring and informative guide as I continue moving toward a new life.

One of the real challenges is between obtaining intimacy and at the same time maintaining your individuality and freedom. This book gives great examples on how to balance both. Frank Tyson

Terrific book full of wise and helpful information for the midlife single.Well written and easy to read. Also useful as a reference book.I highly reccommend this book to any one who finds themselves intentionally or recently single!