Obsessive thoughts, erratic mood swings, insomnia, loss of appetite, recurrent and persistent images and impulses, superstitious or ritualistic compulsions, delusion, the inability to concentrate -- exhibiting just five or six of these symptoms is enough to merit a diagnosis of a major depressive episode. Yet we all subconsciously welcome these symptoms when we allow ourselves to fall in love. In Love Sick, Dr. Frank Tallis, a leading authority on obsessive disorders, considers our experiences and expressions of love, and why the combinations of pleasure and pain, ecstasy and despair, rapture and grief have come to characterize what we mean when we speak of falling in love. Tallis examines why the agony associated with romantic love continues to be such a popular subject for poets, philosophers, songwriters, and scientists, and questions just how healthy our attitudes are and whether there may in fact be more sane, less tortured ways to love. A highly informative exploration of how, throughout time, principally in the West, the symptoms of mental illness have been used to describe the state of being in love, this book offers an eloquent, thought-provoking, and endlessly illuminating look at one of the most important aspects of human behavior.
Well written clinical hypothesis that the emotion of love mimics mental illness long enough to twart judgment and cause people to bond and continue the species. Many of the cognitive reactions to a love object do resonate with symptoms of mental imbalance. The only cure seems to be the passage of time and the fading of the fantasy. Love in the romantic sense really is a mimicking of impaired judgment and impulse control because people have been known to do "crazy" things in the name of love - leave spouses for an inappropriate person, quit jobs to move to another country halfway around the world, buke convention, make silly public displays of affection that one day is a source of embarassment, etc. The drive to "love" probably is mother nature's way of tricking overthinking humans into continuing the species. So the next time you think its love, just remember you might just be crazy temporarily. In fact, unrequited love, puppy love, etc isn't really love, its just limerance mixed with fantasy. The dark side of love is its capacity to drive people to the depths of despair so often knowing its animbalance can help the lovesick heal out of "heartbreak" faster and easier. There is no heartbreak either, just a facet of the same "crazyness". Maybe one day modern medicine will create a medical cure so no one ever experiences heartbreak, heartache, or love's crazy impact on our better judgment.
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Tallis writes on the biological and psychological truth on "romantic" love, even though most people don't want to hear it. This book is an academically sound work on the evolutionary psychology of humans and "romantic" love (that it's purpose is procreation and survival of the species). Procreation is so important for a species that that's why when we "fall in love", many basically act psychotic (obsessive thoughts, melancholy for un-returned love, etc). I can't wait to read his other works!
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