Married Women Who Love Women

Married with 5 kids, (the two youngest just adopted), I fell in love with this woman... Having a difficult time with my parents accepting my adopted girls... and then, being driven out of the closet by my husband... being threaten by my parents, brothers and ex to loose custody of my kids, I was between hell and heaven beliving I was the only crazy mother going through this... then this book came into my life... it became an embrace... the only shoulder to cry on, my mirrow... where things got into perspective, and I could breath and take a break at last... This book, with all those women sharing deep feelings, became my only support. I gave it to my mom... she teared it appart as soon as she got it... I bought it again... and lost it (think it was my ex who desapered it)... I bought it once again... an it has remain by my side since. Being divorced for 5 years now, out to my kids, over two lesbian relationships, this book is still my companion, for I read it to gain more undertanding of myself, and I keep hopping I will find someone to love, someone to become a family whith. I'm mexican, I live in México city, and still, I was totally reflected in this book. I'm working in a book of my own so mexican voices can be heard too, and it is obviously dedicated to Carren Strock, for taking the chance, the time, the self imposed dedication... to bring a light to those like her, like me... I'm still crying for what a gift she gave to me, to the world. I Thank her, for my life is now as wonderfull as It only could get if I stood up to myself, and I would never have done that, if not for the hundred voices that talked to me though this book.

With this book, Carren Strock brings one of the least visible segments of society into view: those for whom the book is named. By sharing openly and honestly her own experiences and those of a wide cross-section of women who are or have been married to men but love women, she shows the myriad ways these women, their families and lovers live this reality for which no societal guidelines or examples exist, and no serious discussion was available before the publication of this book. As for this reader, finding and reading this book, and sharing it with my husband, honestly saved my sanity if not my life.

This book was medicine to me - it calmed me down in a period of crisis. It is WELL written and helped me understand how other married women have explored and responded to their attraction to women. I couldn't wait for it to arrive, was too frightened to look at it when I finally had it in my hands, then couldn't put it down when I opened to page one. What a comfort to know I'm not alone. I think of the women in crisis who need this book - and hope they find their way to it.

Carren's book tells a story rarely told--of married women who discover an attraction to other women. Told with rare insight from the unique insiders perspective, this book chronicles the true stories of many women who have undergone this earthshaking transition in their own lives, and have found a wide variety of coping mechanisms. I recommend this book not only to women questioning their own sexuality but also for anyone wanting to understand both the coming out process and the intricate mechanisms of hetereosexual privilege at work in everyday lives. This book is a rare achievement; a beautifully constructed and deeply moving work.

This book is poignant and moving. It tells a womans real life story about discovering her sexuality - and also it tell other womens stories too. All of them Married Women who Love Women. It is a book which brings courage and strength to women who are in heterosexual relationships and yet who also love women. It reminds us that we are not alone, that others are there and have been there and survive. Any married woman who has ever looked admiringly at another woman should read this book - it may tell YOUR story.