Can Parents Really Love Too Much? "I love my child, and he knows it. So why is he disrespectful to me?" Raising a child in today's world isn't easy. Parents are so pressured by work and other responsibilities that feelings of guilt overwhelm them, and in an effort to show their deep and abiding love for their children, they overcompensate. As a result, their children demand more and respect them less. Does this sound familiar? In this groundbreaking book,Jane NelsenandCheryl Erwinshow you how to change the relationship with your child from one of guilt and manipulation to one of honesty and cooperation. It may sound hard to do, but it's not-if you know how. Inside, you'll find specific actions, techniques, and attitudes that will help you: ?Give children what they need instead of what they want ?Learn to encourage and nurture without overindulging, overprotecting, or overcontrolling ?Raise a self-reliant, respectful, and capable child ?And much more! "Thoughtful and practical, Nelsen and Erwin's detailed advice will help parents ensure that their loving wish to raise self-reliant and resilient children comes true."-Richard Bromfield, Ph.D., Harvard Medical School, author,Handle with Care: Understanding Children and Teachers "One of the ironies of parenting is that unwise love can harm children. This book will help you apply your love more intelligently and beneficially."-Richard Eyre, author of the #1New York TimesbestsellerTeaching Your Children Values
This book challenges all that you thought you learned about parenting from your childhood. In my constant research on parenting (I have a precocious two year old), I found that this book hit upon many of the issues I have been struggling with. It emphasizes how short-term fixes can create long-term problems. It demonstrates how things that parents do out of love for their children can hurt them in the long run, like bailing out of problems, protecting from mistakes and controlling what they see, do and think. It talks about guilt, worry and introspection. It was a revelation for me because some of the behaviors I thought made me a great mom could actually cause coping problems in the long-term.The ideas are presented in a realistic, sympathetic way by the authors. They constantly remind the reader that perfect parenting is not possible, but keeping their concepts in mind will help your children in the long run. They also remind the reader that parenting is not comfortable. If you are comfortable all the time, you are probably loving too much and causing long term issues for your kids.I highly recommed this book as a different point of view on what a good parent really is. It makes you think, it makes you work hard, and it can make a difference.
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