Why Mr. Right Can't Find You: The Surprising Answers That Will Change Your Life--And His
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How many of us never meet the person with whom we could be happy? How many of us limit our romantic choice to the people who happen to wash up on our shore? In Why Mr Right Can't Find You, J.M. Kearns, Ph. D., shows that finding true love can be a proactive adventure. In chapters like How Men See Women, The Underrated Chance Encounter, and The Truth About Bars, J.M. Kearns lays bare the surprising vulnerabilities of the single male, and the power they confer on women. Men, he explains, are not shallow, not the enemy, and not aliens from Mars. In fact, the good man who is searching for you is your greatest ally, and Kearns shows you exactly how to take advantage of that fact. In the process he overturns the classic dating myths - that destiny chose the one and only man for you, that baggage is bad, that all men prefer the same body type - and solves the fascinating riddle of compatibility, with a hilarious and practical guide to the factors that make two people click, illustrated with real-life vignettes straight from the dating trenches. Finally, in a full online dating section, Kearns (who met his partner online) gives clear, simple advice on sites, photo sets, matchmaking, body issues, and that crucial first meeting.ReviewIf you've been on the lookout for ages but still haven't found The One, this is for you...you'll be in the arms of your true love in no time --OK MagazineA literary MRI of the male brain.--Georgie Banks, CBC News Viewpoint. Kearns insists it's really not difficult to direct the right man to you, whether it's online, someone you already know, or a total stranger. So read this, sit back and wait for the offers to pour in... Kearns says we should break the mentality of 'acceptable' places and realize 'any time is a good time to meet Mr. Right.' And sadly, men can't read our minds to establish our interest, so direct him to you.--Cosmopolitan-UK
Format:Paperback
Language:English
ISBN:0470154594
ISBN13:9780470154595
Release Date:January 2008
Publisher:John Wiley & Sons
Length:271 Pages
Weight:0.95 lbs.
Dimensions:0.7" x 6.1" x 7.9"
Customer Reviews
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Why Mr. Right can't find you....
Published by Thriftbooks.com User , 15 years ago
J.M. Kearns has written an excellent book, "Why Mr. Right Can't Find You". I am a man so, I found this book to be quite enjoyable reading. It's actually pretty refreshing to read something from a man's point of view as to why a good man cannot find a good woman. There are plenty of people out there in society but as I like to say, "quality is much better than quantity!" Now, according to the author, you should hang out in "desirable" locations to meet men and subscribe to online dating sites to meet quality men. I agree that you can find quality men in both these places and what's good is the author basically asks his readers to open themselves to new possibilities. Another key point the author makes is he encourages the single women to seek out & approach potential guys. There is nothing wrong with this; we live in a society where we want equality for everyone well, why should a single woman wait for someone to approach them? If you see something you want go for it. Lastly, this is written by a man, so it's not gender biased nor is it a book which generalizes men or exploits women. It's just a neutral, informative book that can help anyone find Mr. or Ms. Right. I hope this helps...YMMV...NEOSOUL
Smart dating advice.
Published by Thriftbooks.com User , 15 years ago
Why Mr. Right...is one of the few--very, very few--dating books that actually gives a girl some good advice. It's got whip-smart advice and, I'd say, it's a bit in your face. No offense taken as it's good to hear this stuff and to realize that by accepting it, then I can work on it. I just can't recommend this one enough. I would also recommend Sexy and Confident: How To Be The Dreamgirl Men Want, Have a Better Life and Improve Your Self-Esteem, too.
So THAT'S where all the good guys are...
Published by Thriftbooks.com User , 16 years ago
...At the bar! I've had a great and hilarious time reading this book---which I almost didn't buy because, well, look at the title. But, for a confident and smart woman who has dated the wrong guys for what feels like years and years never once did I consider the idea that everywhere I went was an opportunity to meet a nice guy who I might actually like if I would only look up and smile once in a while! J.M Kearns finally openes the door to the mind of men and pointes out, at last, that a group of women (or a group of anyone) is impossible to approach, compatibility is the most important element to consider when sizing up a suitor and that it's the annoying guy's friend who looks like he is having a heart attack behind him that is actually digging us! I had no idea... Enjoy!
Smarter than the average relationship book...
Published by Thriftbooks.com User , 17 years ago
This book doesn't even deserve to be lumped in with all the other "Self Help" stuff: it's better than that. I was shocked to find an intelligent discussion of something people almost never speak intelligently about - preferring instead to believe in some pie-in-the-sky fantasy at the exact moment they're planning a life! I brought this book to my boyfriend when we'd only been going out a few weeks: we read it together, talked about it, went on a road trip to test it out, and basically used it as a roadmap to find true compatibility...at the same time we were falling in love. I highly recommend it for couples, not just singles, because it jump-starts those conversations and questions you need to figure out before you get all emotional and sappy. We now know things about each other we'd never thought to ask ourselves. Oddly enough, after you figure out you really can be best friends and great partners, all that dreamy love stuff is much deeper and more rewarding. Great book - and the little vignettes make it hilarious, too.
A Positive Book with the Surprising Answers to Why Mr. Right Can't Find You
Published by Thriftbooks.com User , 17 years ago
As a dating coach and former owner of a singles activities group, I've heard the stories of hundreds of single women discouraged because their Mr. Right seemed to be nowhere in sight. The self-help lit made them think men were aliens and all wanted the same thing - namely, a woman who was nothing like them. Being a single woman, I could identify with that struggle. J.M. Kearns made me ask some good questions of myself. Why was I worrying about what "all men" want? And why was I choosing only from the men I happened to meet by accident? I started to focus on the guy out there who was looking for me, and how I could take steps to find him. This shift in thinking takes the desperation out of dating and puts the fun back in. I've shared this with all my single girlfriends and it will definitely be required reading for my clients. After applying his advice, I'm seeing a man who is definitely Mr. Right material. Read this book -- your pessimism will never be the same!
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